Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Some People Amaze Me (and not in a good way)

I recently had a close person to me leave this status on Facebook, i will be using Anonymous for the names plus numbers.

Anonymous status updater; Our Daughter cried for about 2 hours last night while we tried to sleep. This "letting her cry" thing is difficult! :(


These were the comments left by other people.

Anonymous commenter 1:
This too shall pass..that is one of the hardest things to do.

Anonymous commenter 2:
Agreed...remember those nights like yesterday. Its only seasonal though :) Will come & go thru the years...

Anonymous commenter 3:
The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. This book has worked well for both of our children. The crying it out is just really hard on the parents and the kids...

Anonymous commenter 4:
It is very hard....I started my daughter at 7 months doing that and it took about 2 weeks. Just be consistent, it will pay off when your getting a full nights sleep! Good luck :)

Anonymous commenter 5:
It is hard to hear your little one crying and doing nothing, but it will be well worth it. Trust me.

Anonymous commenter 6
That's why God invented sound machines!

Danielle Carlson
Anonymous commenter 4 and 5 are right the first few nights to couple weeks depending on child are rough but it is so worth it, Kaleigh already puts herself to sleep and she doesn't cry but she did for about the first week, Jacob never cried, and Judah lasted the longest his was a month not screaming that only lasted about a week but he would cry and whimper for... See More about a month but now he goes and puts himself in bed. It is very hard and for some reason it was a lot harder with Kaleigh than the boys to let her sit there and cry but it is so worth it in the end. Plus I read this baby book one time that it teaches and is one of the process of them learning to be self reliant. It is tough but YES WELL WORTH IT.



Anonymous commenter 3 again:

(as i duck and hide - because the comments will probably start flying. ...and since i am the only one on this side of the fence.)

it is interesting that everyone is saying "let her scream".

i wasn't going to say anything else, but this made me LOL... "teaching them to be self-resiliant"... ... See More

Sorry, but that is funny. might as well let them touch the stove and get a third degree burn to teach them that it is hot, or let them try drugs so they know the dangers of overdosing. That logic is bogus.

Babies cannot be self-resiliant...if you think they can, don't feed your baby and see what happens. But a funny point that probably a lot of people buy in to.

Help your child transition lovingly - they need you...and it isn't necessarily about how comfortable you want to be. Those cries are a signal. What if something is going on, and you discover that you neglected legitimate cries simply because you wanted your "own" time.


well first off I didn't comment again but believe me I wanted to so bad, I think if I would have though I might have offended some people so now I am going to vent on my blog:) First of all I would have told this commenter I didn't say Self-resilient I said self RELIANT. Second their hand getting burnt and trying drugs are completely different. If I warned them or told them no no about touching something hot and they touched and got burnt guess what they are not going to touch that again and will listen when you tell them its HOT, and you job as a parent is to teach your child the difference between RIGHT and WRONG so if they do try drugs did you do your job as a parent right. Now I know kids are going to do things and you cannot control them all their lives, but if my kid ever did try drugs ( which I pray and teach him why not to that it is bad) I pray that when he did try those drugs it made him so sick that he felt like he was dying because you know what then he would learn oh man MOM was RIGHT. Third feeding your baby also has nothing to do with this I said it was ONE OF THE PROCESSES didn't I and your baby does eventually learn to eat on his own. He is right cries are a signal SOMETIMES, sometimes your baby just cries, if you are in tune with your baby and know your baby which in my opinion I beleive a good mother is
a mother can differentiate those cries, babies have several different types of cries, they have a mad cry, a defiant cry, a lonely cry, upset cry, hurt cry, pain cry, and many more. I KNOW MY BABIES CRIES and if it is a cry I am concerned about then Yes I go check on them. I have in my opinion some of the best kids, yes they have their flaws, but they are GOOD KIDS. I am always complimented in public places on how good my kids are, and even in restaurants. I would like to see what Anonymous commenter 3 kids are like. And another thing I have 3 kids I take care of, a house I keep spotless, my husbands business I am constantly helping him with plus many other things, so yes usually when my kids go to bed at 8 or 9 that is MY time to unwind after a hectic day before I go to bed, and also I am usually doing dishes or laundry so I don't have to worry about the kids there are many other things I have to do. I AM A STAY AT HOME MOM SO MY JOB NEVER ENDS.

4 comments:

  1. So awesome. Don't know where some people come up with this stuff.

    How about the "I got my foot caught between the crib spindles" cry?

    Our express purpose of raising our kids is to RAISE them. Childhood is beautiful and cute and everything else, but our goal has been and always will be to raise them to adulthood.

    There's a LOT more life for these little people to be lived as an adult beyond childhood. A doting, enabling pushover is doing a disservice to children and to society in general.

    Not that it's easy at all. Some days our only consolation is that we have 18 years to make it happen.

    (How's that for what are probably the harshest words I've ever written on the internet?)

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  2. LOL well Eli your harshest were pretty mellow but very true. I was so mad when I saw this guy post this. Your right they have a lifetime of adulthood and we have 18 years to instill them rights, wrongs, values, principles, and everything else actually its not even that long it is more till early teenage years, but we have to do our best in that 18 because once they turn 18 they are legally not bound. I am going to tell my kids they when they are 18 they are more than welcome to stay home especially if they are putting themselves through school but it is still my house (my roof), MY RULES and you want to live here you have to follow those rules. And you are absolutely right they are doing a complete disservice to their children it is not their fault if they have not been taught. I just couldn't believe this person comparing letting your baby/child scream/cry when going to bed the same as them doing drugs. WHAT AN IDIOT, sorry that's just my opinion.

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  3. So is Anonymous commenter #3 a mother? If so, I feel very sorry for her as her children grow and see how unstable she is to let her children control her. If she is not a mother than I've already tuned her out, not worth my time and energy!

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